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Suicide

Stress is a part of everyone’s life and it is possible for anyone to have thoughts of suicide. You can always talk to us.

If you are feeling suicidal…

You are not alone. Thoughts of suicide may be brought on by a sudden traumatic event, personal issues or losses that overwhelm your ability to cope. The pain may become unbearable. Options for dealing with the pain may become limited or used up and suicide may seem like the only way to escape the pain that is felt. There is often the feeling of being out of control; the last remaining thing that can be controlled is whether to live or die.

The decision to die is not an easy one. A “tug-of-war” may take place inside the person between the want to end it all and the will to live. Ultimately, it is about wanting to end the pain rather than wanting to end one’s life.

Often people who feel suicidal feel cut off from others. This might happen because they believe that no one else could understand the situation, or that others have too many problems of their own. However there may be more support than you realize. 

You do not have to do it alone. If you need to talk to someone, come onto Crisis Chat during operating www.youthone.com/crisischat.php, or call the 24-hour Distress Line at 482 – HELP (4357). If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.    

Are you concerned about someone who is suicidal?

If someone you know...
  • Makes a statement about wanting to die
  • Makes threats, talks of, or jokes about dying
  • Makes final arrangements, gives away possessions, says good-byes
  • Is depressed and/or withdrawn
  • Takes unnecessary risks
  • Shows a noticeable change in behavior, attitudes, or appearance
  • Has attempted suicide in the past
  • Appears to have a sudden and unexplained recovery from a severe depression
  • Expresses feelings of hopelessness and helplessness
If you notice any of these clues or warning signs, the person may be feeling suicidal.
 
Ways to help...
  • Ask the person directly if they are having thoughts of suicide. Asking the question lets them know you are willing to help, and will not plant the idea.
  • Ask the person if they know how and when they will commit suicide. Someone who has done a lot of planning and wants to do it soon needs help now!
  • Understanding the facts is important but do not forget to talk about their feelings too.
  • Try to listen without judgment.
  • Do not keep suicide a secret. Let them know you care too much about them to handle this alone. Get an adult involved to help the person to find professional help. 
  • Contract with the person. Make an agreement that they will promise to call the Distress Line or a trusted person before they attempt suicide.
  • Stay in contact and check in as much as you are able to.
  • Come onto Crisis Chat during operating www.youthone.com/crisischat.php or call the Distress Line at 482 – HELP (4357). We can have a conversation about how you can help the person further. If they are in immediate danger, call 911.   
*** Remember that you alone cannot fix someone’s problems or take their pain away – you can only listen and support. 
***Supporting someone who is suicidal can be stressful, remember to take the time to care for yourself.
Suicide Myths and Facts
 
Myth
Suicidal people just want to die.

Fact
Most of the time, suicidal people experience a “tug-of-war” inside themselves between wanting to die and wanting to live. Ultimately, it is about wanting to end the pain rather than wanting to end one’s life.
 
Myth
People who commit suicide do not warn others.

Fact
The majority of people who kill themselves present clues about their suicidal thoughts. These may be behavioral signs or verbal warnings. All clues need to be taken seriously.    

Myth
It is not a good idea to talk about suicide with someone who's showing signs of depression. It will plant the idea in their minds and make them more likely to act on it.

Fact
A direct question (“Are you thinking of killing yourself?”) will often make people feel less anxious. It is a good idea to allow the person to express feelings. It is one of the most helpful things you can do